Today, my wife and I celebrate our nine-year wedding anniversary. This marks 17 years knowing each other, 15 years dating, and 9 years marriage.
Each year with her is a gift of which I am increasingly thankful for. Proverbs 18:22 has proven true with each anniversary, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.” Chawna is my good thing, a token of God’s favor toward me.
In our marriage, we have made a habit of reading through our wedding vows with each passing anniversary. Our vows are very special to us not only because they are the promises our marriage stands on, but also because they encapsulate our best understanding of what God calls us to be for one another. In creating our vows, Chawna and I did our best to scour the Scriptures for what God calls husbands to be and do for their wives and vice verse. Rereading our vows refreshes us in what God calls each of us to be.
So, this year, upon Chawna’s permission, I thought it would be fun to share our vows with whomever would like to read them. We hope they bless you as they do us.
My Vows to Chawna
I, Dana take you, Chawna, to be my beautiful wedded wife and I promise before God, His Holy Church and all His Creation that…
I will make every effort to be used by God to make you more like His Great Son Jesus Christ, Our Savior and Lord.
I will labor to bring you happiness all the days of my life.
I will strive to lead our family to the heart of the Holy Trinity where there is unity undivided, peace undisturbed and love unsearchable.
I will sacrifice to put your needs before my own, honoring you as a daughter of the King.
I will protect you with all my might and power.
I will fight to provide all that you need even if it means I go without
I will love you with Christ as my example. As He has given Himself for you, so will I. As He has sought your growth in holiness, so will I. As He fights to protect you, so will I. As He cherishes and loves you, so will I.
Chawna’s Vows to Me
I, Chawna take you, Dana, to be my wedded husband and I promise before God, His Holy Church and all His Creation that…
I will be faithful to you all the days of my life.
I will respect you and keep an attitude of submission in everything as you submit to Christ.
I will strive to be the helper God has created me to be as I support, encourage, and serve you so you may be the man God has created you to be.
I will labor to bring you good and never harm as I walk beside you.
I will freely give of myself for your benefit all the days of my life.
I will labor to make our house a home; where peace is known, love is given, and Christ is honored.
I will love you with Christ as my example. As He has given Himself for you, so will I. As He has sought your growth in holiness, so will I. As He cherishes and loves you, so will I.
Nine years ago we promised these things to each other. Nine years later, they still guide, instruct, encourage, and correct us. These are the promises that fuel our love, guide our lives, and anchor our marriage. These are the vows our marriage is built upon. By the grace of God in Jesus Christ, these are the vows that will steer us in the years to come.