Jared Wilson recently typed 10 immensely helpful truths for young singles in romantic relationships.

Here are four that I found particularly important and valuable.

1) It’s not bad to want to have sex with your significant other. It’d be another sort of worry if you didn’t. The key is to want to glorify Christ more than you want to have sex with each other.

2) The key to glorifying Christ more than you want to have sex with each other is that it is a decision to be made over and over again.

3) Persons in a dating or courting relationship are on their best behavior. So however they are now, you can expect, over time, for them to get “worse.” As familiarity grows, people let their guards down, become more their true selves. In this way, marriage does not fix bad behavior; if anything, it often gives it freer reign. Ladies, this means that if your boyfriend is controlling, suspicious, verbally condescending or manipulative, he will become more so the longer your relationship goes on. Whatever you are making excuses for or overlooking now will get harder to ignore and more prominent the longer your relationship goes on. By God’s grace, people pursuing Christ can change, but you can’t fix him and marriage itself won’t straighten him out. If he’s rough around the edges now, it’s going to get rougher.

4) Premarital sex de-incentivizes a young man to grow up, take responsibility, and lead his home and family.

Read the other six truths here.