Suspending Judgment

JudgmentImagine you’re in the grocery store and an unkempt woman with ungroomed hair, sloppy dress, and neglected hygiene stands behind you. Her smell reaches your nostrils and her appearance makes you cringe.

What would go through your head? What do you think about this woman? Why do you think she is the way she is?

Keeping your answer in mind, pay close attention to the words of Duane Elmer as he offers an important insight and exhortation for us all:

Suppose I am standing in the store waiting to pay the cashier. An unkempt woman with ungroomed hair, sloppy dress and neglected hygiene stands behind me. In less than five seconds I will probably draw some conclusions about this person, none of them positive. Yet if I catch myself and analyze my thoughts, I might reconsider.

Maybe she just learned her father has cancer in his rushing to help him.

Maybe her sick child desperately needs medicine.

Or maybe she’s depressed.

Or carefree.

By suspending judgment, I can keep my mind open to alternative explanations for what I see in here rather than immediately assuming something negative. The issue is not so much what might have caused her appearance but what is my response to this “stranger” whom God has created. If I allow negative attribution to take over, I am inclined to ignore the woman’s humanity and her true needs. But if I stifle a quick response and remain open, it becomes an opportunity for hospitality – a moment of grace, maybe even healing.

Not all judgments are wrong, but most premature judgments are. We must suspend judgment until we see more clearly. That is unnatural and takes time. This is why we must practice suspending judgment. Making a judgment is the same as coming to a conclusion. If the conclusion is wrong, we have acted unjustly towards the person. Furthermore, once we have formed a conclusion, our mind is closed to new information that may change our conclusion. Even worse, once our conclusion is formed, we tend to see only the evidence that confirms the conclusion…

The Apostle James offers help: “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak” (James 1:19). Perhaps by listening we might learn something that will keep us from the grievous error of miss judging someone. (Taken from Cross Cultural Servanthood, p. 50-53).

Judgments are bound to come and need to happen. None of us can live without making judgments about other people. Judging whether or not someone is safe, dangerous, in need of help or compassion are important, even essential, judgments to make.  However, the key is  ensuring our judgments are true. Therefore, we must always suspend our judgments to allow the truth form how we view others, not our assumptions.

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Preaching By Laughter

laughter-serenity-is-sacred-laughHelmut Thielicke:

Fellowship with (God the Father) bestows joy…it grants power to sing out with that liberated and defiant laughter…

If I am in league with the Conqueror, shouldn’t there be something of the humor of the Christian man in my life?

Humor, after all, is always a way of overcoming the world. It is high time for us to bear witness to our Lord not only through preaching but also by our laughter. (Taken from I Believe, p. 25-26).

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The Saturday Post(s)

Saturday Post

The Theology of Donald Trump. Michael Horton sheds needed light: “Trump reveals, in short, that for many evangelicals, the word evangelical means something that many increasingly do not recognize as properly Christian, much less evangelical. Then again, if the working theology of American spirituality is a combination of “moralistic, therapeutic deism” (Christian Smith) and pragmatism (William James), then perhaps Donald Trump is after all exactly the right candidate for the moment.”

A CD on the Psalms. Looks like a great CD.

Are Millenials Selfish & Entitled? “Most of the Millennial-age gospel Christians I know are far more theologically rooted than their parents’ generation. Most of them are far more committed to reaching outside of Christian subcultures to share the gospel with people not like them. Would some of them rather discuss theology than evangelize? Yes, just as many in the last generation would rather discuss evangelism than evangelize.”

Transgenderism is Bad for Kids. Justin Taylor reports that, “The American College of Pediatricians (ACPeds)—a socially conservative association of pediatricians and healthcare professionals in the United States, founded in 2002—has issued the following statement on gender identity in children…”

Repentance vs. Defensiveness. How do you respond to critique? There is one of two ways.

Top Priorities of Parents With Young Children. This is exactly the kind of wisdom I need to be hearing at this time. I hope it helps you too.

The Field Goal is Good Still, Right?. This kicker gave the referee a headache.

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The Saturday Post(s)

Saturday Post

How to Deal with Skeptical Students Without Being a Jerk. There is some good wisdom here that can be applied across the board in dealing with people who may disagree with you. “As a professor, you don’t have to change the structure of your class to suit students who would prefer you to do things a different way; but you don’t have to treat them with contempt or derision either. And that’s a key universal rule for teachers.”

These Are the Long Term Effects of Multi-Tasking. “Shallow tasks like reading and responding to emails or checking social media might prevent you from getting fired, but it’s deep tasks that produce the value and build the skills that get you promoted.”

Why Women Should Get Graduate Degrees in Biblical Studies. “We need well-trained women serving in our churches. Seminaries and the plethora of new training options available would do well to market to complementarian women. If we believe the gifts are not restricted to men only, then surely complementarians should lead the way in training women. Lord, make it so, for the sake of your bride.”

What Should You Look for in a Church? Spot on.

The New Definition of Tolerance. “This new definition of tolerance is nothing but a political tool to accomplish the very opposite of tolerance.”

Cracking Taco Bell. Let free burritos abound.

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One, Necessary Duty

03-guard-your-heartWhat is the most important duty for those who desire to love God and others well?

Christine Hoover answers:

At Christmas, I make caramelized popcorn as a gift for friends and neighbors. In order to perfect the caramel coating, the mixture must boil for a very specified amount of time at extreme heart. While it’s boiling, I have to stir constantly, watching for the liquid to turn a caramel color that will let me know it’s ready. Then I must immediately remove it from the heat and coat the popcorn before the mixture hardens. I have learned from experience that without my constant diligence and hovering presence, the popcorn will be ruined because it hardens too quickly.

The same hardening process occurs in our hearts when we aren’t diligent in watching over them…We need the Holy Spirit’s constant help to remain available and moldable before God. Without our submission to the Spirit on a daily basis, it is impossible to have a soft heart and to serve Him as He has called us to. Without that submission, we invite temptation and distraction to draw us away to emotional places and wrong thoughts that harden our hearts…

It is no wonder that the Bible entreats us to guard our hearts. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” The literal translation reads, “Above all guarding, guard your heart.” We are to guard our hearts more than our children, more than our marriage, more than our reputation, more than our home, more than our schedule, and more than our church. (Taken from The Church Planting Wife, p. 20-21.)

You will fail all those you love and your endeavors will come to nothing if you neglect this one, necessary duty. If you want to love God, your family, your church, and your neighbor well, above all things, guard your heart .

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School Yard Politics

image_thumbI am not one for politics; let alone talking about them; even less writing about them. However, as Ecclesiastes has taught us, there is a time for everything.

Don’t get your hopes up too high, this won’t be anything of major substance, but I offer a simple observation that’s been reeling around in my head for the past few months.

Along with many folks, I find myself in awe and confusion about what is happening in the 2016 race for the presidency. Among the many things causing me a palm-to-face reaction, it is the school-yard maturity and crude rhetoric between the candidates (admittedly, on the conservative side) that is most astonishing. These folks are running for what, now?

As I watch, I wonder if their juvenile badgering is less a reflection of the candidates and more of a reflection of where we are as a society. Is our society witnessing an off-brand of candidates that have somehow slipped through the cracks or are we looking into a brutally honest mirror?  Al Mohler’s analysis of this idea is piercing:

As important as the 2016 presidential election is and certainly will be, the reality is that this dissent of the culture into this level of crudeness is something that if unchecked is likely to be a far longer and more damaging consequence. The 2016 Republican race has now injected nativism and populism and a basic anger into the political equation that is going to be very difficult to restrain and impossible to satisfy.

But it has also redefined the political culture in the United States and a form of machismo that is absolutely crude and unprecedented and extremely dangerous. Whether or not some of these candidates deserve to be elected, the reality is they certainly deserve to have their mouth washed out with soap.

Christians observing this process have to ask some really hard questions. One is: To what extent does this reflect the character of the participants in this kind of accrued exchange? The reality is there is no way to absolve character from this equation. As the Bible is very clear: What comes out of the lips reveals the actuality in the heart. We also have to ask some very hard questions about how in the world a society recovers on the other side of this kind of coarsening and crudeness. In this respect, we have to wonder if the 2016 presidential election right now, especially looking at the Republican side, is some kind of horrifying reality show from which the culture will emerge. But there are reasons to believe that what’s taking place is not just driving the culture but reflecting the culture, and that’s a far more dangerous situation.

To put the matter bluntly, it’s absolutely insane that this is the way to make America great again, when the America that would be produced by this kind of culture could not be described as great in any honest terms.

Could it be, to ruthlessly butcher and liberally paraphrase a Batman quote, that this election will not give America the leader she needs, but the leader she deserves? As we scoff our way through the debates, are we missing the opportunity to look in the mirror?

As I said, nothing of major substance, but nonetheless, a cause for prayer and reflection.

 

 

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The Chief Rule of the Christian Life

humble-man-postSt. Augustine:

When a certain rhetorician was asked what was the chief rule in eloquence, he replied, ‘Delivery’; what was the second rule, ‘Delivery’; what was the third rule, ‘Delivery.’

So if you ask me concerning the precepts of the Christian religion, first, second, third, and always I would answer, ‘Humility.’

(Quoted in Bavinck, Herman. Prolegomena. Ed. John Bolt. Trans. John Vriend. Vol. 1. (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic, 2003), 441.)

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The Saturday Post(s)

Saturday Post

Your Single Most Important Habit. “Negligence and chronic minimizing of the importance of corporate worship reveal something unhealthy and scary in our souls. Let’s resist it with fresh resolve. For our deep and enduring joy, there is simply no replacement for corporate worship.”

Speed Limits Are a Call to Worship. Food for thought for the fast drivers out there. “The free man has his cruise control set at fifty-five, and he’s worshiping Jesus. Happy, peaceful, get there whenever he says.”

5 Marks of a Fruitful Church. “How do we know our church is a growing part of something God is blessing?”

190 Blogs I Read. Tim Challies reads 190 different blogs. Here’s the list. Worth a look.

What Would It Look Like to Take the 9th Commandment Seriously? Taking a lesson from the Westminster Confession of Faith.

25 Women Who Impacted the World for Jesus. You go girls.

Did Jesus Really Rise From the Dead? Great little video?

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You Are a Single Issue Voter

2John Piper proves that everyone is a single-issue voter deep down:

No endorsement of any single issue qualifies a person to hold public office. Being pro-life does not make a person a good governor, mayor, or president. But there are numerous single issues that disqualify a person from public office. For example, any candidate who endorsed bribery as a form of government efficiency would be disqualified, no matter what his party or platform was. Or a person who endorsed corporate fraud (say under $50 million) would be disqualified no matter what else he endorsed. Or a person who said that no black people could hold office—on that single issue alone he would be unfit for office. Or a person who said that rape is only a misdemeanor—that single issue would end his political career. These examples could go on and on. Everybody knows a single issue that for them would disqualify a candidate for office.

It’s the same with marriage. No one quality makes a good wife or husband, but some qualities would make a person unacceptable. For example, back when I was thinking about getting married, not liking cats would not have disqualified a woman as my wife, but not liking people would. Drinking coffee would not, but drinking whiskey would. Kissing dogs wouldn’t, but kissing the mailman would. And so on. Being a single-issue fiancé does not mean that only one issue matters. It means that some issues may matter enough to break off the relationship.

So it is with politics. You have to decide what those issues are for you. What do you think disqualifies a person from holding public office? I believe that the endorsement of the right to kill unborn children disqualifies a person from any position of public office. It’s simply the same as saying that the endorsement of racism, fraud, or bribery would disqualify him—except that child-killing is more serious than those.

See the whole article here.

HT: Denny Burk

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The Saturday Post(s)

Saturday Post

But Jesus Never Said Anything About Homosexuality. “If you’ve ever claimed that Scripture says homosexual behavior is a sin, there’s a good chance someone tried to correct you with, “Jesus never said anything about homosexuality.” It doesn’t matter what Bible verse bolsters your claim, Jesus’ silence on the matter allegedly trumps all other considerations. Here are seven reasons why this objection doesn’t work.”

Why You Should Be a Single-Issue Voter. Denny Burk shares his (& John Piper’s) thoughts on being a single-issue voter. “What do you think disqualifies a person from holding public office? I believe that the endorsement of the right to kill unborn children disqualifies a person from any position of public office. It’s simply the same as saying that the endorsement of racism, fraud, or bribery would disqualify him—except that child-killing is more serious than those.”

Hilary, Bernie, Donald, & Me. Anyone who is eligible for McDonald’s senior discount should give this a read: “So if Hillary and Bernie and Donald want to bear the weight of the world for the next four to eight years out of man-centered, philanthropic motives, I find my seventy-something zeal for Jesus heating up. They only get to be president of a tiny territory called the U.S.A. I get to be an ambassador of the Sovereign of the universe. They only get to change the way some people live for a few decades. I get to change the way some people live forever — with a lot of good spill-over for this world in the process.”

Do Parents Flirt With the Idol of Sports? Youth sports only intensify in commitment each year. What used to be the practice regime of a college student seems to now be that of a T-Baller. This question brings some good wisdom to the table for parents to think through concerning how they guide their children’s time in sports.

When a Christian Sins. Christian, what do you do after you sin?

Don’t Have Time to Read Books? Try this one, weird trick.

5 Reasons You Should (Probably) Leave Your Attractional Church. Good food for thought from a guy who runs an organization called, For the Church. He’s a big believer in the local church, but not if it looks like this.

What’s So Special About Singing on Sundays? “I want to highlight some of the differences between people gathering to sing and the church singing. I want to remind us of who it is that’s singing, how we came to sing, and Who we’re singing to. In other words, I want to talk about singing as the church.”

Can’t Stop, Won’t Stop. Hiccups won’t stop this kid from singing the Australian national anthem.

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