A Secret to Prayer

5897d5ef7567dc8d95dc9237e3336b97Came across a gem from Charles Spurgeon’s Morning & Evening today:

When you read…a promise, take it back to the great Promiser, and ask Him to fulfill His own word.

Feast your faith upon God’s own word, and whatever your fears or wants, go to the Bank of Faith with your Father’s note of hand, saying, “Remember the word unto Your servant, upon which You have caused me to hope.”

A most valuable secret to prayer. Bring God’s Word to God and demand in faith He fulfill it. Hold Him to His Word. Believe He’ll fulfill it. He loves it.

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Are You a Sponge, Sword, or Stone?

replace-our-kitchen-spongesKevin DeYoung, in his excellent little e-book, “The Gift of Friendship,” offers a word picture that should make us all ask, “Which kind of friend am I?”

We all know the proverb: “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another” (Prov. 27:17). It’s a great word picture.

Ask yourself…

Am I sponge that never hurts anyone, but never helps much either?

Am I a sword that cuts to the quick but also destroys?

Or am I a stone, the kind of friend upon which others can be sharpened, made better and more mature?

Faithful friends make better stones than sponges or swords. (p. 7)

You can access the entire e-book here.

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Every Pastor Should Have This

226a7950518819cbf1433d4c86571acfWhat do you think are the most important qualities a pastor should have? Is it to be funny? Relevant? Engaging? Winsome? A nice dresser? Visionary? Whatever your list may end up looking like, I pray that the below quality makes it to the top of the list.

Jonathan Leeman:

There are a lot of things a church should look for in its next pastor. But as your church considers different pastoral candidates, I want to make sure this is toward the top of your list: a supernatural faith in the power of God’s Word.

I’m not talking about a man who simply checks the belief box on the “authority” or “sufficiency” or “power” of the Bible.

I’m talking about a man who whose conviction here runs so deep that it profoundly influences the way he works and lives. He plans his weekly schedule based on this conviction. He rests his daily mood upon this conviction. He even picks his clothes in the morning knowing that, it’s not how good he looks that will bring life to the dead, it’s the resurrection power of God’s Word and Spirit.

This is as important as any other quality a pastor could have. It’s as important as swimming is to a lifeguard, throwing is to a quarterback, or adding is to an accountant. It defines the very task of what a pastor does.

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Christians & Their Bibles

bible2-620x403Herman Bavinck:

Believing God at his word is in no way inconsistent with human dignity, anymore than it dishonors a child to rely with unlimited trust on the word of her or his father. So far from gradually outgrowing this authority, Christian believers rather progressively learn to believe God at his word and to renounce all their own wisdom. On earth believers never move beyond the viewpoint of faith and authority. To the degree that they increase in faith, the clinging all the more firmly to the authority of God and his word. (Taken from Prolegomena, p. 464.)

The maturity of one’s faith in Jesus can be demonstrated clearly by their acceptance, trust, and obedience to the Bible as God’s authoritative word. As Christians grow, they do not drift or graduate from the Bible, but depend on and trust it more.

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Your Atheism (or Irreligion) is Socially Shaped

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The Saturday Post(s)

Saturday Post

Should We Celebrate the “Dragon Lady”? An honest question to proponents of transgender reassignment. “On what basis can you condemn the ‘dragon lady’ but celebrate sex-reassignment surgery?”

How Do We Help Students in a Pornified Culture. Sean McDowell has some really helpful and wise counsel here.

Social Media vs. Girls. Heartbreaking, yet helpful insights.

18 Things to Pray for Your Church. “It’s comparatively easy for you and me to pray for ourselves, our families, and our friends. But how can we learn how to pray more fervently and consistently for our local churches?”

Donald Trump is Not Pro-Life. I know abortion is a big issue for many. Alth0ugh Trump has claimed to be pro-life, the facts tell another story.

I Am a Christian & I Hate Christian Movies. Bound to offend the thin-skinned, I think this article issues some good thoughts (and some not as good). Worthy of reflection nonetheless.

Making Jesus in Our Own Image. A short, but needed reflection about how to read the Bible. “Yes, the Gospels have much to say to me. But they aren’t about me… they’re about Christ. And we need to listen to them and master them, or better be mastered by them and by the Christ they describe.”

Four Warnings for Your Twenty’s. Get your thinking on.

The Joy & Pain of Consistent Parenting. “Children do not always give delight to the hearts of their parents. Sometimes our children disobey in incredibly embarrassing situations, cry in the middle of the night when we want to sleep, and display defiant attitudes when we just need them to cooperate. We get frustrated with, angry at, and weary from our children sometimes. Solomon holds out some hope here for us though. When we persevere in faithful parenting, we have a greater opportunity to enjoy our children for the blessings they truly are.”

Dubstepping. She expresses what we all feel when we hear some good ol’ dubstep.

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Your Pastor is More Than a Podcast

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Podcasts are great. I love Podcasts and benefit significantly from them. They make my long commutes to school or runs through my city way more enjoyable and edifying. Podcasts are super duper. A+. Wonderful.

However, though great, Podcasts can be abused. The specific abuse I am thinking of is when Christians use Podcasts as their only source of spiritual nourishment; when Podcasts become the resource instead of a resource. I am thinking about those who trade in church membership for Podcast subscriptions. Those who believe it is OK to be disconnected from the church as long as they’re connected to their favorite Podcast. This, my friends, is an abuse of a good gift and, in the end, will do more harm than good.

Why the Abuse?

Why would someone use Podcasts in such a way? One reason is that people love to cater to their specific preferences. We have custom playlists on Spotify, show lists on Netflix, and radio stations on Pandora, why not have a custom preaching list at our fingertips too? If one searches long enough, they can find the preacher or Podcast host that perfectly matches all their unique and personal preferences. It is really hard to find a church that meets all of your particularities, but the Podcastosphere holds limitless options.

A second reason people abuse Podcasts in such a way is because many churches are not teaching God’s Word very well; or at all. Many pulpits are more fast and less feast. Because of this lack, Christians often go looking to be fed God’s Word (Matt. 4:4) in other places. As Shai Linne so eloquently put it:

God gives the increase: holiness, love, unity.
The Word faithfully preached builds up the whole community
If not, your Sunday meal will not last
And you’ll have to supplement it with the Podcast

For these reasons, people pursue Podcasts in place of their pastors.

Your Pastor is Better Than a Podcast

Although the reasons for relying on Podcasts are understandable (after all, it’s nice to have our preference met and God’s Word delivered), the practice is not good and, ultimately, will hurt more than help. How is it hurtful? At least one reason is this: a good pastor is better than a good Podcast. In replacing pastors for Podcasts, many are choosing the lesser gift. A recent blog post by Thom Rainer illustrates this well by listing seven reasons why good pastors are better than good Podcasts.

Your pastor is there for you. The podcast pastor has no way of being there for you in times of need. Your pastor is available in good times and bad.

Your pastor knows your family. The podcast pastor has no idea who all the listeners are, much less their families. No doubt, you can remember times when your pastor ministered to your family in a very personal way.

Your pastor is at the hospital for you. The podcast pastor does not know the names of the hospitals in your community. Hospital visits are some of the most joyous and painful times of a pastor’s ministry. Your pastor is there to celebrate and grieve with you.

Your pastor is a part of your community. The podcast pastor may interact with the online community by making an occasional comment on the podcast or blog. But your pastor is a recognized face in your community, eating where you eat and going where you go. Your pastor ministers to those outside the church as well as within the congregation.

Your pastor preaches as one who is informed by the needs of your church and community. The podcast pastor does not know the needs of your church and community. Your pastor takes on the burden of bringing God’s message to you, your fellow believers, and those in your community. The pastor does not take this role lightly.

Your pastor was called to your church. The podcast pastor was not.

By replacing pastors with Podcasts, many are actually cutting themselves off from much greater blessing. Podcasts are great, but they are not pastors.

What About You?

Unfortunately, though I believe pastors offer much more than Podcasts, I don’t think many Christians have a relationship with their pastors as is described above. Lots of pastors don’t know their people and lots of people don’t really know their pastors. Congregants often see their pastors more as leaders of an organization rather than shepherds of their souls. Unfortunately, they think that way because many pastors act more like CEOs and less like pastors; more like ranchers and less like shepherds. Therefore, even among church going folk, there remains a wide chasm between the lives of congregation and clergy. Thus, the beautiful gifts of good pastors as described above are reduced to sermons on Sundays and nothing else on the days between.

So, let’s end this by asking, “What kind of relationship do you have with your pastor(s)?” Do your pastors know you and your family? Do they know your weaknesses, needs, or struggles? Do they know where you work? Do they know where you live? Would they visit you if you were in the hospital? I am not saying one must have an intimate relationship with every pastor at their church, but there must be some measure of relationship between shepherds and their sheep that goes beyond simply recognizing a face.

After thinking about the above question, now answer this, “Is your relationship with your pastors like it is because they stand aloof from you or because you haven’t sought that kind of care?” Whatever the answer, what needs to be done in order for you to experience the blessing of your pastor’s ministry?

My heart behind this post is to help Podcasters understand there is much more God has for them. I want God’s people to experience God’s blessing through God’s church. God has gifted His church with pastors (Eph. 4:11). Don’t miss out on this big blessing by replacing it with a smaller one.

For another great article on the subject of Podcasts and the local church, check this out.

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Your Marriage Needs the Local Church

awesome-marriage-proposals-8This year I have the immense privilege of officiating the wedding ceremony of four couples (I already did one in January, congrats again Charlie & Kalli!). One unique thing about these four weddings is that they all contain former students of mine! In two of the couples, both the bride and groom are former students! Being able to walk with students from 6th grade to marriage (and onward from there, Lord willing) is a peculiar blessing of youth ministry for which I am extremely thankful.

The excitement and joy isn’t about officiating the ceremonies (though that’s a privilege and a blast), but it’s about preparing the young couple for their marriage. For me, the ceremony is nothing compared to the marriage it creates. In per-marital counseling, I love rejoicing with couples about the amazing gifts God has given them in one another. I thoroughly enjoy letting God’s Word shine on their relationship and preparing them for their future union. Helping couples learn how to communicate, love, and repent well is a particularly satisfying work for me knowing how richly it will pay off later on in their marriage. Leading a ceremony is fun, but helping to build the foundation of Christian marriages is the work I’m most jazzed about.

Your Marriage Need the Local Church

In a premarital counseling session I finished yesterday, we spoke in-depth about a marital truth often ignored, at least in practice. In his excellent marriage book, Love That Lasts, Gary Ricucci expresses the truth beautifully:

Friends, sanctification – becoming like Christ – is indeed a community project. And marriage, growing to represent Christ and the church, is every bit as much a community project.

The church is the place where marriages are fed and supported with truth. The local church is God’s primary context for the teaching and application of God’s word. As helpful as recorded messages, Christian media, conferences, and even books can be, the Lord has established the church as the central depository and dispensary of truth. If you truly want to mature as a husband or wife, if you want your spouse to spiritually thrive, if you want to see your family nurtured into the truth, the local church is your God given context.

Of all the leadership decisions I have made by the grace of God, the very best one has been leading my wife and family into our local church. Here we have remained for more than 28 years. We were married here, our children were born and raised and are now serving here, and as I write this, one child is just weeks away from being married here! We are part of it. It is a part of us and our entire family. For us, life, marriage, and raising children apart from the local church is literally unimaginable. Friends, this should be the norm, not the exception, for every Christian. And regardless of the cultural whirlwind around us, it is the local church – Christians living a shared life biblically before God and one another – that will ultimately secure the place and role of marriage and family from generation to generation.

(Taken from Love That Lasts, p. 25).

For joy, make sure you and your spouse are meaningfully connected to Jesus and His.

How About You?

This is one of those easy posts to read, nod your head, whisper “amen,” and then fail to actually examine yourself to see if you’re enjoying the wisdom. It is an easy truth to accept in the head, but not as much in the heart or hands.

So, take a moment and ask yourself, “Is my marriage meaningfully connected to a local church?” Are there other Christians in your church who are committed to the health and Christ-centeredness of your marriage? Are there pastors who actually know about and watch over your marriage’s joy and purity? Do you children see how married folk ought to relate to the church by your example? If not, you’re missing God’s heart, God’s command, and God’s gift.

Friends, God’s Bride most definitely has her quirks, but in her heart she’s a fine lady with a faithful Husband. Being her loyal friend and meaningfully joining your marriage into her ranks will bless your Lord and your union.

Take the invitation and receive the joy God has for you. Get your marriage planted in a church.

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5 Points on Helping Youth Think Through Transgenderism

men-are-women-areLeaning on the recent statement from the American College of Pediatricians, Sean Nolan offers up some wisdom on how to teach our youth about Biblical sexuality in a world that is increasingly hostile to it and those who promote it.

When it comes to biblical manhood and womanhood, my new favorite source from outside the circle is the American College of Pediatricians (ACPeds). You will not find any reference to the Bible on their website. The authority to which they submit is purely scientific. Yet, their recent statement titled, Gender Ideology Harms Children affirms what those who trust the Bible have claimed all along: human beings are created both male and female and these distinctions are assigned at birth.

What God reveals in Scripture to be immoral, science is now finding to be destructive. ACPeds research corroborates what God has stated from old: it is dangerous to encourage humans to embrace a sex other than the one assigned to them at birth. It offends God, mars the imago dei, and leads to further human suffering as sin is always guaranteed to do.

How can we talk with our churches’ teenagers who are at the forefront of the ongoing battle over gender ideology? Here are some things we can share with teenagers about human sexuality that the Bible affirms and the ACPeds research confirms.

1) God does in fact make humans either male or female. While there is increasing hostility to this view, our biology cannot be changed…Meet confused students with compassion and grace, while challenging them to think deeply about who God has made us to be biologically.2) No one is exempt from believing lies. Currently there are massively popular lies about our sexual identities and our bodies that we cannot inoculate our teenagers from. Let us steep ourselves in God’s Word while keeping abreast of the changing climates of culture and medicine and the insights they will provide us.

3) Puberty is an awkward time for everyone and insecurities abound during this season of life. The physical and hormonal changes are only compounded by the rhetoric that states we can choose our gender. Appropriately (use caution as there are many inappropriate ways) affirm and encourage students that despite the transition their body goes through God made it and ordains its transformation, he sees them as “very good” (Gen 1:31) and they are his workmanship (Eph 2:10).

4) Do not tell teens struggling to work through sexual identity issues that what they are going through “is just a phase.” While the statement from ACPeds research suggests that it is, this sort of comment is unhelpful for those in the midst of the confusion. All you will achieve by bringing this up to those in the midst of the confusion is invalidating their struggles and feelings. This will shut down conversation and eliminate trust.

5) Conversely, for those teens who are thinking biblically about sexual identity and ministering to those struggling with it: do mention that it is just a phase. It can be encouraging for students that are praying for hope and healing for their friends to know that with time it is likely feelings of gender dysphoria will eventually subside. We may also want to remind them that sharing the idea that this “is only a phase” with their friends comes across as dismissive and unhelpful.

Our youth are growing up in a culture filled with passionate, hostile, and never-silent preachers of sexual liberty and self-actualizing autonomy. The sermons of the world are ubiquitous and unceasing. Therefore, it is essential that the Church be the pillar and foundation of truth God calls her to be (1 Timothy 3:15) and shed light amidst our darkened generation. May the preaching of the world not be met with the silence of the Church.

Read the whole post here.

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How Do You Respond to Others?

conversation-1Here’s a question you may have never asked yourself, how do you usually respond to others in conversation?

Not sure how to answer? I didn’t either when I was first asked, but Duane Elmer helpfully clarified it for me (and not without a good dose of conviction too):

Psychologist Carl Rogers said that there were five ways of responding to people in conversation. His research revealed that the most frequent response North Americans have in conversation is the evaluative response. That is, our responses are characterized by agreeing or disagreeing, by correcting any error we might detect, by giving a counterpoint, by saying “Yes, but…,” by changing the subject or by withdrawing. An evaluative response tends to either shift the conversation into debate or closes it down.

From here, Elmer cites the other four responses that we would all do well to cultivate in our daily conversations.

We can promote dialogue if we develop one or more of the other responding skills – probing, interpretation, support, or understanding. These contribute to a better communication and true dialogue.

Probing – Asking questions that go deeper into the topic.

Interpretation – Saying back in our own words what we’ve heard the other person say.

Support – Best when feelings are being expressed and empathy is most appropriate.

Understanding – Asking for more clarification, illustration, or detail.

(Taken from Cross-Cultural Servanthood, p. 123.)

In what way do you most frequently respond to others? If your spouse or friend or child were to choose what they think your go-to response is, to which of the five would they point? How may you intentionally change your way of responding to others in order to better love and serve them?

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