Douglas Wilson recently penned a brief sexual catechism to aid Christians to think clearly about what the Scriptures teach about sex and things attached to it. Also, this is something for parents to keep in the back pocket whenever the birds and bees conversations begin to happen with your little ones.
1. How was mankind created?
We were created by God in the image of God, male and female together (Gen. 1:27).
2. Who is the author of marriage?
When God presented the first bride, our mother Eve, to Adam, He was establishing the first marriage (Gen. 2:22).
3. After the first marriage, how are marriages to be formed?
A man should leave his father and mother, be joined to his wife, so that they might become one flesh (Gen. 2:24).
4. What is the biblical standard for marriage?
One man devoted to one woman for life.
5. How do we know that such monogamy is the normal biblical standard?
We know this because God created one man and one woman for each other as a pattern (Gen. 2:24), because Christ is the ultimate bridegroom and He has only one bride (Eph. 5:23), and because Christian leaders are required to set the example of devotion to one woman only (1 Tim. 3:2).
6. What elements are necessary to bring a marriage into existence?
The two elements that are necessary are sexual consummation (Gen. 2:24) and a public covenant of marriage (Gen. 2:22).
7. What is it called if there is sexual consummation but no covenant?
It is called fornication or adultery (1 Cor. 6:16-18).
8. What is it called if there is a covenant but no consummation?
Anything but marriage.
9. What is the relationship of being “one flesh” to the existence of a marriage?
There can be no marriage without it, but the fact of a one flesh union does not mean that a marriage exists.
10. Can genuine marriages be formed in disobedience?
Yes. One example would be remarriage after unjustified divorce (Deut. 24:1-4). Another example would be found in societies where polygamy is legal.
11. Can the disobedience become profound enough that the end result is not marriage at all?
Yes. Homosexual “marriages” would be an example of this.
12. Why are these marriages not marriages?
Because they are physically incapable of becoming one flesh, which requires a male and a female.
13. But sexual activity does occur.
Yes. But not the kind of sexual activity that can ever culminate in a one flesh union.
14. But the law declares that they are married.
The law declares a lot of things.
15. How should we treat those in homosexual “marriages?”
We should treat everyone we know with love and respect, speaking the truth to them in love. But because they are demanding our approval above all, we must take care that our compassion and care never be confused with such approval.