In reflecting on 7 lessons learned from 30+ years of pastoral ministry, Mark Altrogge hits a point that isn’t only relevant for pastors, but everyone. His point: disagreement is not disloyalty.
Sadly, strong leaders sometimes interpret disagreement as disloyalty. Don’t be offended when people question you or disagree with you. Challenging one another can be really healthy. Husbands, if your wife disagrees with you, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t support you or stand behind you. She’s probably trying to help you. Pastors, you don’t always have to be right. Recently a fellow pastor graciously pointed out some areas of weakness in my life, not because he was being critical or disloyal, but exactly the opposite – because he cares about me and wants me to focus on things I’m good at.
As a husband, a father, and a pastor, this is something I never want to forget. I never want to become a man who sees disagreement as a manifestation of disloyalty, but an invitation to sharpened thinking from someone who cares. I never want to curse those who respectfully disagree with me, but I want to thank them; and then show them how they’re wrong 😉
I encourage you to read the whole post here.