When It’s Good to Be Booed (Or Bad to Be Applauded)

jesus_teachingOnce, Jesus preached this:

Woe to you, when all people speak well of you, for so their fathers did to the false prophets. Luke 6:26

Matthew Henry helps apply.

It is a sign that you were not faithful to your trust, and to the souls of men, if you preached so as that nobody would be disgusted; for your business is to tell people of their faults, and, if you do…you will get that ill will which never speaks well. The false prophets, the ones who flattered your fathers in their wicked ways, the ones who prophesied smooth things to them (Jeremiah 6:14; 8:11; Ezekiel 13:10), were caressed and spoken well of; but, if you in like manner cried up, you will be justly suspected to deal deceitfully as they did.

We should desire to have the praise of those who are wise and good, and we should not be indifferent to what people say of us; but, as we should despise the disapprovals, so we should also despise the praises, of the fools in Israel. (Taken from Matthew Henry’s commentary on the whole Bible: complete and unabridged in one volume, p. 1843).

Despise the disapproval and praises of those who despise God’s Word. When sharing God’s Word, sometimes (note: not all the time) being booed is a sign of faithfulness and being applauded is a sign of sin.

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In Honor of My “Paul”

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Don’t worry Dave, it’s biblical (2 Corinthians 13:12).

Remember your leaders, those who spoke to you the word of God. Consider the outcome of their way of life, and imitate their faith. Hebrews 13:7

Allow me to obey that verse right now in this post.

This is an extremely short glimpse of the profound thankfulness I have for my youth pastor and co-laborer in the gospel, Dr. Dave Keehn.

Youth pastors, take note, Dave’s is the exemplary life and ministry.

The Hunt

Dave, you hunted me down like a lion on Sunday mornings as I grazed the donut table. Although I, a little 8th grader, continued to turn down your invitations to youth group countless times, you continued to pursue me and invite me. You relentlessly reminded me that you cared about my soul. Finally I gave in and, from that point, my life would forever be changed. So profound was this change that one could even say, when I finally took you up on your offer, my life began.

My Discipleship

You brought me to know the peace of Christ and the fellowship of God. You have taught me the Scriptures from the beginning of my new life in Christ. You discipled me faithfully day after day, week after week, month after month for 14 years. From you, I learned how to read the Bible, teach the Bible, pray in response to the Bible, and enjoy God and all His grace given in Jesus Christ. You answered my questions – both the good ones and the bad ones. You gave me a taste for books and the gift they are to the church. Dave, God has used you to bring me into His family and you have held my hand and showed me everything since.

My Ministry

Not only do I have you to thank for my life in Christ, but also for the ministry you now are passing onto me. As a young high schooler, you planted seeds of pastoral ministry in my heart when you taught me how to lead a Bible study so my wrestler friends could meet Jesus and be saved. When you saw my growing desire toward pastoral ministry, you were quick and faithful to fan that flame. My senior year of high school you took me on as a youth ministry intern and, for the next five years, you personally trained me in how to do youth ministry well. You taught me to preach. You taught me to administrate. You taught me to lead. You taught me to serve. You taught me to love. You were quick to encourage my victories, lovingly faithful to correct my missteps, and always quick to forgive my sins. You worked tirelessly to ensure me a spot on the youth ministry team when I graduated from BIOLA. To give a picture, I was your clay and you, my potter.

My Family

But, Dave, you weren’t just interested in me being a good minister of the gospel, but, in fact, even greater than that, you have always wanted me to be a good husband and a good father first. When Chawna and I were dating, you inquired about the purity of our conduct to safeguard us from sorrow. You and your excellent wife Debbie would take Chawna and I out to dinners with no agenda other than loving us and enjoying our company (which for a young man from a divorced family, that meant the world to me). At all the appropriate times you intentionally taught me things that still bless my family to this day. You taught me how to budget. You taught me how to keep a calendar and make sure family gets scheduled as a priority. You taught me how to communicate and deal with conflict. You taught me to never let ministry become my mistress. You taught me that marriage is not 50/50, but 100/100 in seeking to serve one another. You taught me to pursue my wife and never stop dating her. You helped us walk through the minefield of pre-marital counseling and because of that we have been saved from a multitude of errors, tears, and most likely hundreds of dollars in marriage counseling bills. On August 21, 2010, you officiated our wedding and made it one of the most memorable days of my life – and you didn’t even complain when we didn’t pay you (again, wink wink).

Even beyond teaching me how to be a good husband, you have taught me countless things about being a good father too. You taught me that daddies must study each of their children so they can love them individually according to their temperaments and personalities. My Little Daisy Jane – and the (Lord willing) many other children we will have – will all have a daddy who gives them focused, intentional, individual time every week doing things they like to do because their spiritual grandpa taught daddy to do that well.

My Conclusion

I could literally go on for hours because of all you have done (and my inherent long-windedness), but I feel this statement sums up well everything I have said and would say if I had the time. Dave, this is my conclusion: without you in my life, I would not have my life.

Everything I cherish – my Savior and His salvation, my wife, my daughter, our church, this youth ministry – I enjoy because of you being faithful to pastor me well. And for that, I am eternally grateful.

For this reason, I have no problems calling you my father because that is what you are. With great joy, I affirm what we have always said, you are my Paul and I will forever be your Timothy.

A Blessing

Father God, thank you for my spiritual Father, Dave Keehn. You have used him mightily these past 14 years to bless us and bear our burdens. He has done that all with a smile on his face and a fire t-shirt on his back. And now Lord, shine you face upon your son and our pastor. May he, in the coming years, experience your peace  and overflow with your love in even greater measure than these past 14 years. Continue to use him to make Jesus look great as you have been doing already.

Thank you for Pastor Dave.

But, please note, I am only one voice among countless.

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The Day Daisy Was Born

Daisy Jane Dill // May 28, 2015

Daisy Jane Dill // May 28, 2015

I wrote this in my journal on May 28, 2015 at 8:10pm in a hospital room while my wife and baby slept soundly near me. It was the day my daughter, my first child, was born. This entry was written in ink and polished with tears.

Today, at 8:40am, Daisy Jane Dill was born at a healthy and vibrant 7.5lbs and 19.5 inches.

Heavenly Father, thank you for Daisy Jane.

There are innumerable things I could write about at this moment. Things like the labor, the delivery, the first sight and touches, my announcement of gender and name to the family waiting anxiously in the lobby, the first-time family meet-ups, and much more. I, no doubt, will write about these things in the near future, but not now. Now is the time for one thing: worship.

My heavenly Father, I praise you because you answered every single prayer we offered to you. Thank you for bringing Chawna into labor before having to be induced. Thank you for keeping Daisy’s little heart going when things started getting tough for her. Thank you for keeping the meconium out of her lungs. Thank you for not letting the umbilical cord wrap too tightly around her neck as she was being delivered. Thank you for comforting this weeping father in the hallways of the hospital. Thank you for hearing my prayers and for letting me know you were hearing my prayers. Thank you for keeping Chawna strong and healthy through it all.

Praise you for the grace of this beautiful hospital and the excellent staff, nurses, and doctors. Thank you for the minds you’ve given them. Thank you for the technology they’ve used to bring Daisy into this world safely. Thank you for the 24 hour care they’re giving us in our first few days of parenthood.

Praise you for the energy to take it all in.

Praise you for the eyes to take it all in.

Praise you for a healthy mama. Not only that, but a valiant mother. My God, watching Your daughter give birth to my daughter was astounding. The strength. The bravery. The open ears she had to listen closely to the doctors and nurses amidst the pain. The unquitting spirit. The toughness. Oh how the Fall has corrupted child-birthing, yet how Your grace shines forth through it all. Bless your daughter, my sister and my bride. She did well. I am amazed by her.

Praise you for the church that no doubt covered this in prayer. Surely Daisy was delivered by the hands of Dr. Miller and the prayers of Your people.

Praise you for our family who is always there and ready to serve us in the greatest and smallest of ways (thanks for the batteries, Chad).

And Father, praise you for Daisy Jane. May she live to know you, love you, and praise you all the days of her life here and forevermore.

Praise you Father that, as I write this last sentence, I do so to the sound of two beautiful sleeping girls breathing peacefully in the darkness.  Thank you for letting me be a father too. May I, in my words and deeds, help my girls see you, know you, love you, and praise you.

Amen.

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Least of These Bakers, Florists, & Photographers

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The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’ Matthew 25:40

He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’ Matthew 25:46

Have you ever asked yourself, “Who is Jesus referring to with the phrase “the least of these?” Many folks think the “least of these” are those in poverty. However, although caring for the poor is indeed a biblical call, that’s not who Jesus is speaking of. Denny Burk comments:

Contrary to popular belief, “the least of these” in Matthew 25:40 is not talking generically about our obligation to care for the poor and needy. We know this because the terms “least of these” and “my brothers” appear elsewhere in Matthew’s gospel, and in each case the terms specifically refer to Jesus’ disciples who have been sent out into the world to preach the gospel.

With this in mind, Burk helps to bring the text’s application to our doorstep. He shows who the “least of these” are in 2015.

Have you ever heard someone say, “I like Christ. I just don’t like Christians.” Jesus says that if you don’t like his disciples—if you reject them—you are rejecting Him. There is no version of Christianity that allows you to follow Christ while mistreating His body. And it won’t matter how much you profess your love for Christ if you reject and mistreat his body. What you do with Christ’s people will tell everything that needs to be told about you at the judgment.

This text is not about poor people generally. It’s about Christians getting the door slammed in their face while sharing the gospel with a neighbor. It’s about the baker/florist/photographer who is being mistreated for bearing faithful witness to Christ. It’s about disciples of Jesus having their heads cut off by Islamic radicals. In other words, it’s about any disciple of Jesus who was ever mistreated in the name of Jesus. This text shows us that Jesus will judge those who show contempt for the gospel by mistreating gospel-bearers.

However, even with this stark reality, there is still hope.

The good news is that Jesus offers mercy even to his enemies. If you have been at odds with the “least of these,” there is time to get this right. Jesus died to pay the penalty for our sins, and he has been raised from the dead to offer us eternal life. We receive this gift of salvation simply by repenting from sin and trusting in Christ. That invitation of mercy is open to everyone reading this—including those who have mistreated the least of these.

Read the whole post here.

 

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A Little Lull

baby_info_bank_logoFor regular readers of A Pilgrim’s Friend, I wanted to let you know that I won’t be blogging too much this week or next. I will be studying for finals for seminary (this week). Also, my baby’s exodus is due next Monday.

Your prayers are appreciated!

Until then, press on!

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The Saturday Post(s)

Saturday PostGod is Bigger Than My Cancer. “As I prepared for chemotherapy, my wife smiled and handed me a handmade card, colored bright with crayons and signed by a fifteen-year-old girl with Down syndrome in our congregation. My tears flowed as I read the top: ‘Get well soon! Jesus loves you! God is bigger than cancer!’”

A Teachability Refresher. I so need this. “When we enter into God’s family by faith in the Person and finished work of Jesus Christ, we enter into a life of change. God loves his children so much that he will not leave us as we are. Shaping us into the image of Christ is his unfailable goal. Among other things, this necessitates that we maintain a teachable spirit until God takes us to heaven. The following is a brief refresher on why we need to maintain a humble, teachable demeanor…”

Are People in Heaven Aware of What’s Going on at Earth? Randy Alcorn, “One of the common questions about Heaven I’ve heard over the years is, ‘Do people in Heaven know what’s presently happening on earth?’”

The Desperate Need for Mature, Female Mentorship. “In the church, we have many ministries geared toward women. We have specific groups and studies for moms and seniors. We have Bible studies, teas, and retreats. While Scripture doesn’t give great details on the specifics of ministry toward and for women, it does provide this clear instruction…”

Women Preaching? Are women, “permitted to preach in the weekly gathering of a local church as an extension of the male elders of the church or as an expression under their governing authority?” Recently, John Piper said, “No.” In response to Piper, “Andrew Wilson said, “Yes.” In light of both Piper’s and Wilson’s answers, New Testament scholar Tom Schreiner weighed in. I highly recommend listening to/reading each of the responses so you can see three gifted and intelligent men have a cordial discussion about an important topic.

You Had One Job. A list of hilarious failures of people who had just one job to do.

The Preacher’s Game Changer. Luke 24 changes everything for the preacher. Here’s why…

Slide. Sometimes I feel like this kid for better or worse.

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Listen to Your Kids Talk About Video Games (& Other Things You May Have No Interest In)

kids-playing-video-gamesWith our first baby about 2 weeks away from being born, I will make sure to store this counsel deep into my heart.

Melissa Edgington talks about the importance of listening to her son talk about his video games, even though she may have no interest in them whatsoever.

It’s imperative that I listen attentively when Sawyer talks to me about his video games.  Because right now he is entrusting me with something that matters to him and that he is passionate about.  And, if I act disinterested, if I tell him that it kind of bores me, if I ridicule him or make him feel like I don’t think this is important, then someday, when he might entrust me with bigger things, he will turn to someone else who has made him feel listened to…

When our children are little, these are the tough years.  And, these are the so, so easy years. Yes, it’s tough to be so needed and to be buried in little kid-ness from dawn until dusk.  But, these are the times of being faithful with few things.  These are the days of laying the groundwork, setting up a foundation, doing the tiny things that will set the tone for the big things that are coming down the pike.

These are the days of listening to our sons talk about video games and listening to our daughters argue the indignities of math homework.  If we are faithful in listening, really listening, then one day in the nearer-than-we-think future, they will be more likely to come to us to talk about their crises of faith.  To talk about the pressure to have sex.  To talk about the heartaches of growing up.  If we are faithful here, in the little years, in the small things, then we are more likely to be entrusted with the big stuff.

So, stay faithful, dear mothers, even when the subject matter is yawn-inducing. Even when you have a million other things you need to be doing. Just listen, and give your kids reason to believe that you can be trusted with the little things and the big things, just because you care.

Faithfully demonstrate and prove your love to your child in the early years and they will come to you in the later ones.

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Jesus, the Greatest Sinner Who Ever Lived

jesus_suffering.35255309_stdAt the cross,God made him (Jesus) who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. 2 Corinthians 5:21

In order to save sinners, Jesus willingly became their sin. Jesus became the sin of all who would one day believe in Him. Therefore, on the cross, in the eyes of God, as Martin Luther once said, “Jesus became the worst sinner who ever lived.” As Jesus hung on the cross, God did not see His Son, but Sin.

With this reality in mind, Pastor Rick Gamache powerfully imagines what the Father’s words may have been toward the One hanging on the cross. The Father speaks…

Son of Man! Why have you sinned against me and heaped scorn on my great glory?

You are self-sufficient and self-righteous — consumed with yourself and puffed up and selfishly ambitious.

You rob me of my glory and worship what’s inside of you instead of looking out to the One who created you.

You are a greedy, lazy, gluttonous slanderer and gossip.

You are a lying, conceited, ungrateful, cruel adulterer.

You practice sexual immorality; you make pornography, and fill you mind with vulgarity.

You exchange my truth for a lie and worship the creature instead of the Creator. And so you are given up to your homosexual passions, dressing immodestly, and lusting after what is forbidden.

With all your heart you love perverse pleasure.

You hate your brother and murder him with the bullets of anger fired from your own heart.

You kill babies for your convenience.

You oppress the poor and deal slaves and ignore the needy.

You persecute my people.

You love money and prestige and honor.

You put on a cloak of outward piety, but inside you are filled with dead men’s bones — you hypocrite!

You are lukewarm and easily enticed by the world.

You covet and can’t have so you murder.

You are filled with envy and rage and bitterness and unforgiveness.

You blame others for your sin and are too proud to even call it sin.

You are never slow to speak.

And you have a razor tongue that lashes and cuts with its criticism and sinful judgment.

Your words do not impart grace. Instead your mouth is a fountain of condemnation and guilt and obscene talk.

You are a false prophet leading people astray.

You mock your parents.

You have no self-control.

You are a betrayer who stirs up division and factions.

You’re a drunkard and a thief.

You’re an anxious coward.

You do not trust me.

You blaspheme against me.

You are an un-submissive wife.

And you are a lazy, disengaged husband.

You file for divorce and crush the parable of my love for the church.

You’re a pimp and a drug dealer.

You practice divination and worship demons.

The list of your sins goes on and on and on and on. And I hate these things inside of you. I’m filled with disgust, and indignation for your sin consumes me.

Now, drink my cup!

And Jesus does. He drinks for hours. He downs every drop of the scalding liquid of God’s own hatred of sin mingled with his white-hot wrath against that sin. This is the Father’s cup: omnipotent hatred and anger for the sins of every generation past, present, and future — omnipotent wrath directed at one naked man hanging on a cross.

The Father can no longer look at his beloved Son, his heart’s treasure, the mirror-image of himself. He looks away.

Jesus pushes himself upward and howls to heaven, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”

Silence.

Separation.

Jesus whispers, “I’m thirsty,” and he sags.

The merciful centurion soaks a sponge in sour wine and lifts it on a reed to Jesus’ lips. And the sour wine is the sweetest drink he ever tasted.

Jesus pushes himself up again and cries, “It is finished.” And it is. Every sin of every child of God has been laid on Jesus and he drank the cup of God’s wrath dry.

It’s three o’clock, Friday afternoon, and Jesus finds one more surge of strength. He presses his torn feet against the spikes, straightens his legs, and with one last gasp of air cries out, “Father, into your hands I commit my spirit!”

And he dies.

The merciful centurion sees Jesus’ body fall far forward and his head drop low. He thrusts a spear up behind Jesus’ ribs—one more piercing for our transgression—and water and blood flow out of his broken heart.

In that moment mountains shake and rocks spilt; veils tear and tombs open.

And the merciful centurion looks up at the lifeless body of Jesus and is filled with awe. He drops to his knees and declares, “Truly this man was the Son of God!”

Mission accomplished. Sacrifice accepted.

(Read the whole narrative here).

May our hearts never grow cold in the face of such a love: that Jesus would become our sin and die our death! Even more, that He would endure our deserved hell in order to lovingly supply us with His deserved heaven. What wondrous love is this?

May we rest in knowing that Jesus has become our sin and has endured all our deserved judgment. In Christ, we no longer need to fear the fire of God’s wrath, for it has been quenched by the blood of the cross. There is no more wrath in the cup left for you. Only blessing remains.

HT: @nranieri for telling me about Gamache’s post.

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What Does It Mean to Fear God?

What does it mean to fear God?

John Piper answers:

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How to Find a Mentor

-1Russell Moore gives some great advice on how to find a mentor. Below are his main counsels with a brief excerpt of of explanation.

Last week I was asked a question I’ve been asked before, probably over a thousand times before. This time the question came from a young man in ministry in Central America. He’d grown up in the foster care system, without many male role models in his life. He wanted to know how he could find someone to mentor and disciple him. Maybe you’re in a similar situation. If so, here’s what I’d say.

Don’t ask someone to mentor you. Don’t misread me to be suggesting that you shouldn’t seek out a mentor. I’m not saying that. What I’m saying is, don’t use that language when you seek someone out. First of all, it’s kind of awkward…More importantly, the person you’re asking is going to be, more than likely, intimidated by the request. Partly that’s because mentoring means different things to different people. He might be blessed with the sort of humility that leads him to feel unqualified to be chief disciplemaker in every area of your life. Or, he might not be sure that the two of you will “click” relationally in such a way that the mentoring won’t end up being a burden to you both. But there’s a way to get around that.

Ask for mentoring help in a specific area of need. I almost always say yes if someone asks for help in a specific area, if I can be of help there. Find someone who has one specific area of gifting or personal holiness or practical skill that you can learn from and ask for help in that specific area. You might ask a godly business leader for help learning how to craft a budget. Or you might ask a godly married couple to help you and your spouse think through how to work through a disagreement. Or you might ask a pastor you admire to show you how he plans out his week, making time for both study and administration, or how he would preach a particular Proverb in light of the gospel.

Set a time limit, at first. It might be that your ideal mentor doesn’t yet know that he’d be your ideal mentor. He’s not likely to commit, if he thinks your asking for a lifetime. It’s not that he doesn’t see the need for lifelong mentoring; it’s just that he doesn’t know if you and he are fit for that sort of commitment. Ask for an hour, or for five weeks of one-hour a week, or whatever it would take to accomplish that specific area of mentoring. Sometimes this will lead to another aspect of mentoring or discipleship.

Offer to help. As I look back on the people who mentored me, often the way that came about was through work, first on small, mundane projects and then on to bigger projects…The same thing is true, come to think of it, with the men I have mentored in ministry. Most of them started out offering to help with some project, or set of projects. Some of them then became interns. Three of them now sit on my executive cabinet, and others are pastors and leaders around the country. Another is now the editor of my new book, among his many leadership responsibilities at a publishing house. In many of these cases, it ended up as mentoring but it started out as just working together on something, usually small and mundane and sometimes boring. If there’s someone you respect and you might like to be mentored, offer to help.

Commit to mentoring others. I’ve found that men who come from fatherless homes usually follow one of at least two trajectories. Some of them lament the absence of a father in their lives, and then go on to repeat their absent father’s mistakes and sins, all the while groaning that they can’t be held responsible because they didn’t have a good father figure. Many more, though, take a different approach. They lament the absence of a father in their lives, and commit that the story will be different for their families. Many of the best husbands and fathers I know fit this type. They couldn’t learn to be a husband and a father from their dads, but they learned from this negative example, and resolved to do otherwise. The cycle ended with them.

A similar path is possible with mentoring. You can groan and whine that you haven’t been mentored, and you can place blame with the older generation. Or, you can resolve that when you are in a place of leadership, you will mentor and disciple those coming after you. If you can’t have the mentor you need, you can be the mentor someone else will need.

Read the whole piece here.

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